“And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, ‘This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!’” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.” — Iain Thomas
It is a mistaken belief that having more will help you advance in life.
You might believe if you had more money, better looks, a better job or lived in a better area of town, you will be happier.
Everything comes with a price and having more money means being responsible for managing large sums of wealth. If you don’t have the skills to manage money, having lots of it can pose problems as evident with lottery winners who squander their win.
Thriving then is a state of mind.
“You have everything you need to thrive; you just have to plan for the race of your life. Each person’s journey and process is unique,” states author Jay Samit in Disrupt Yourself.
Appreciate what is in your life right now by recognising your gifts, talents and genius. It means knowing your life is bountiful as it is.
Though you have wants and needs, don’t allow them to overshadow what is present.
This is the basis of this entire piece — being grateful for your goodness instead of focusing on what is lacking.
Sometimes It Isn’t Enough
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” — Maya Angelou
I realize it is easy to focus on what is missing in your life when your basic needs are met.
For example, if you have a roof over your head, clothes to wear and food on the table, your basic survival needs are catered for. However, there are millions of people without these luxuries.
One of the world’s leading business thinkers, Daniel H. Pink, writes in his book Drive: “I don’t think it’s a Western thing to really talk about intrinsic motivation and the drive for autonomy, mastery and purpose. You have to not be struggling for survival. For people who don’t know where their next meal is coming, notions of finding inner motivation are comical.”
Perhaps basic necessities are not enough for you and want more: money, fame, better relationships or a successful career. That is fine, as long as you realize you must trade something to acquire these things, whether it be time, skills, ideas or abilities.
History has shown people have succeeded with the bare necessities. Several prominent companies nowadays began operations in less than desirable conditions in the garage of their parents’ house.
You have all you need to thrive, but sometimes you believe it isn’t enough compared to those with plentiful.
But when you look behind the scenes of those you consider rich, there may be an emptiness and longing for something deeper than material luxuries.
Whatever is plentiful in one area, will be lacking in other areas of your life.
The root cause of suffering is not appreciating what is apparent in your life and striving to fill the void.
“Fear causes you to contract rather than open, to protect rather than connect, to resist rather than respond, to survive rather than thrive,” affirms author Mary O’Malley in What’s in the Way Is the Way: A Practical Guide for Waking Up to Life.
Abundance and Prosperity
“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” ― Anthony Robbins
Underlying this want for more is the fear that someday your needs will no longer be met. Your partner might fall out of love with you, and you will run out of money and be homeless or forced out of a job or worse still, death.
However, this is an illusion because your thoughts are turned towards fear instead of prosperity.
Abundance and prosperity does not mean being filthy rich, but recognizing the abundant nature of your life. Having your basic needs met is abundance. Half the world’s population are without access to these luxuries and make do with less than optimal conditions.
One need only look to the current refugee crisis and see people’s homes and basic needs taken from them.
For many refugees, not having food, water and shelter constitutes upheaval in their lives. Yet, for someone living in the United States, this is a basic necessity often overlooked.
Author Linda Graham MFT states in Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being: “Survive first, thrive later: that’s the motto of the lower brain. The well-documented tendency of our lower brain to encode negative, fear-based memories more readily into our unconscious memory than positive ones is referred to as negativity bias.”
You will suffer if you believe the source of your happiness is outside of you.
If you hang your hopes on someone or something to provide for your happiness, you will always long for more.
The moment you shift your awareness to what is bountiful, you move into a state of gratitude to what is available.
This doesn’t mean you should not have better things to enjoy. However, if your attention is fixed on what is lacking, you neglect to value the goodness in your life.
The Source of Your Joy
“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.’ — Joseph Campbell
Happiness must not be subject to having your needs met. Not everything will go to plan and occasionally you will be disappointed.
This is no less true than when a partner leaves a relationship and the other person is left to contemplate why it dissolved.
However, in time, their broken heart heals and they soon find love again. This time, they recognise their partner is not the only source of their happiness, but someone who compliments them.
To appreciate what you have, focus on the source of your joy. Write down or recite what you are grateful for each morning or at bed each night.
A warm cup of coffee, shower, bed, family and friends to share a home with, living in a safe neighborhood, a job that pays well and an employer that appreciates you, are the unlikeliest sources of happiness.
These are basic essentials, which when magnified add to your sense of appreciation. From this place of awareness you will create better circumstances in which to thrive.
The spiritual author Eckhart Tolle states: “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”
Appreciation enriches your life by recognizing them as a source of abundance and prosperity; as long as you recognize it is always enough.
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